Many years ago I read in the book by Richard Carlson, "You can be Happy no Matter What", a totally new concept for my Canadian-German brain. He suggested we be happy that we had the chance to know this person and to have had them in our lives rather than grieve their loss when they die. After all, they wouldn't want us grieving endlessly. I decided to take on this belief. Unfortunately it doesn't seem to work for everyone. Feelings of guilt and sadness often overwhelm the bereaved.
Most deaths produce a feeling of shock and disbelief in their family and friends. Even people whom we don't know personally, such as celebrities, can send people into a deep depression. Even years after the death of a loved one feelings of loss and sadness can persist. The following are normal responses to death:
- grief
- loneliness
- anger
- disappointment
- abandonment
- shock
- fear
- anxiety
- guilt
- numbness
- hopelessness
What if there was a way to take the edge off the emotions that can make taking action seem impossible? What if you could get through the day without breaking down and crying? What if you could do this without feeling guilt? Now there is a way.
Going through a guided process to integrate the death experience can offer immediate relief allowing a person to cope with daily life without falling to bits. See the following experiences:
Shortly after the death of her son:
"It has been
amazing to me that in such a short time you were able to resolve the
sharp edges of grief that had been slicing through me without notice. I
feel much more stable emotionally and am able to tell the story of what
happened without breaking down into tears. I've been able to take care
of myself, my clients, and my daily responsibilities--if not with my
usual energy--at least adequately.
I
realize there's still much grief work to do. It feels like my heart is
expanding into the lessons grief has for me, and I am becoming a more
compassionate and loving being in the process.
Many blessings to you.
Much love and gratitude",
Daria Howell
PS: I should have added that before our session I was experiencing a bout of
depression and that it lifted immediately. It hasn't returned,
thankfully!
This experience is from my trainer's (Satyen Raja) client, and a big motivation in inspiring me to help others with this important work:
"On
February 4th 2013 my son shot himself in the head in my home, in my
chair. This occurred the day after I returned from a training where I
internally addressed ongoing issues with my son and determined to create
a firm boundary around his behavior in my home. When faced with a
drunken man, who had driven my car home from the bar I stood in my power
and told him he would have to leave in the morning when he sobered up;
five minutes later he was dead.
This was the trauma I shared with Satyen Raja in a telephone call three
weeks later, the day before I was scheduled to leave on a lecture tour
to China.
I was an emotional wreck but the thought of escaping my home was something of a relief. However, the thought of actually having to function on the tour was beyond my mental or emotional capacity. This was when Satyen offered to do a Skype session with me and explained he would be running a "procedure" for me. Without understanding exactly what was entailed, I put my trust in him and sat down in front of my computer in a daze, five hours before I left for the airport.
Satyen ran what he called the "Trauma Release process," in less than one
hour he took me through the awful events of that night and the agony
disappeared but even more amazingly helped me connect on both a physical
and spiritual level with my son which helped me resolve some of the
agony and despair of the trauma. There was more work to do of course,
grief of this sort cannot be resolved in an hour. But, the very fact
that I felt stable emotionally, I actually felt like a protective wall
had been formed around my heart and I could walk the walk and talk the
talk for two weeks knowing that when I got home from China I was going
to continue this work with Satyen soon after.
For someone dealing with any trauma, I can only speak my truth from my
own experience, it works and it works fast and it sticks, it is not a
passing fad. The trauma is addressed head on and resolved as you go. As I
continue to work on residual pain in my heart I am going to teach my
grief counselor at home this process so that she can run it for me
occasionally to check on my recovery. I know she will find it intriguing
and I hope she will also find it a very useful tool in her arsenal when
dealing with such pain.
I have been an AASECT certified sexuality counselor for fifteen years, I
have a private practice and have also been an RN for forty two years,
always working actively in the field. I am a Ph.D in Human Sexuality and
have spent most of my life learning and growing, spending tens of
thousands of dollars on a life time of learning. It astonished me and
actually made me laugh out loud when I realized how much I would have
saved had I studied these concepts twenty years ago.
This is the message I now tell my clients as I use these techniques in
my practice: the work we will do today is just about to save you
hundreds if not thousands of dollars but even more importantly than
that, you will actually resolve your problems in hours rather than
months or years (if ever) and live the lives you were meant to live...in
light and joy not heart ache and misery.
Thank you Satyen for all your work and for your strength and support."
Dr. Fran Fisher RN. Ph.D
My services:
As seen by the above experiences, I can help you to remove death trauma and the emotional charges associated around the death of a loved one.
If you have a fear of death that can also be removed with a process specifically designed to remove fear and leave you peaceful. No matter what the emotion, a higher state can be achieved, normally within one session. Often there are different aspects that need addressing and a series of sessions are recommended so you are not just trauma-free but can also feel motivated to move on with your life when you're ready. Your first session is by donation. No strings attached.
Wishing You Peace and Much Love,
Sharie Fox
Skype: sharie.fox
photo courtesy of David Somers
